It is not a term that I – nor, I suspect, anyone else not coupled-up in their fifties – is that keen on.
We have been divorced for 2 years and although it saddens me that my family has been broken apart, I am happy that my ex and I have have managed to be civil enough to make it okay for the kids.Here is what I have found: For single men the options are plentiful. It seems that the breakdown of available women fall into the following categories: 1.After divorce number two, my eldest made me promise “no more step-dads”. Or maybe our patience for bad or boring behaviour is lessened by the ebbing of a biological need or ability to reproduce.But, even if that were an option (having teen children is a pretty good boyfriend repellent, I find), I am still very, very picky. It certainly takes courage to be single in your fifties. Twice-divorced Carol Vorderman, 55, recently talked about being “happily single” saying that she was finally revelling in doing her own thing and running on her own “clock”.They come to me because they want to lose their menopausal tummies.
Yet, dig a little deeper, and what they really want to divest themselves of is the big lump in the armchair called their husband.Those who remain married into their fifth decade can sometimes wear their marriage like a status symbol. Thrice-married actress Kim Cattrall, who celebrated her 60th birthday this year, says of her single status: “You know so much more about what you want and what you don’t want and what you’ll put up with.I feel in that area, romantically, retired.”I did register with a well-known online dating site a while back. The only “matches” that came back were men 10 to 15 years older than me.Be cautious men, these women are looking for you to do it all over again and that means house and children.Sure it will start with great sex and they will make you feel “alive” and young but proceed with caution.In my teens, I waited by the phone for a boy, any boy, to call.