Although we usually assume high emotionality would be an asset in a relationship because it motivates loving behavior, too much emotionality actually turns out to be a liability.
The reason we call them nice guys is based on their ability to act nice even when they aren’t feeling at their best.
These men tend to care so deeply about their connections that they do not need to struggle in the way the average person does to keep others’ needs in mind.
This personality type truly enjoys giving and often find they need nothing more in return than a feeling of being appreciated.
This fantasy usually comes to a crashing halt very soon.
Because of this tendency, our relationships pose a difficult challenge for us.
When we enter a relationship, we are expected to be able to give up our self-centered ways and treat our partner’s interests as equally important as our own.What they tend to overlook is the fact that betrayal happens on a much more subtle level every day in all of our relationships.Humans are naturally a little bit selfish, and we fade in and out of this slightly narcissistic mode as we go through life.This ability holds a special attraction for women with traits of BPD. She has an overriding fear of relationship betrayal.Most people imagine that this kind of fear centers around the more obvious forms of betrayal such as infidelity or relationship abandonment.There is a specific reason why these women are drawn to a nice-guy type over other types of personality.