Dating 101 for women

The occasional typo or split-infinitive is one thing; abuse of the English language in the form of “Ur” “want2” and the like is another and the odds of finding a guy you might actually want who to write like a sub-literate moron is so remote that I don’t think we have numbers that large.

You can also feel free to ignore any and all winks, flowers, pokes, nudges, smiles or flirts.

A note on “sexy” photos; you’ll see many women’s profiles with extremely low cut tops, deep cleavage shots, bikini pics, “self-portrait in the bathroom mirror” style lingerie photos and other cheesecake-y poses. Also: If you have any physical aspect that you feel is less than “perfect”, don’t make the all-too common mistake of trying to hide it, disguise it or otherwise de-emphasize it.

At best, these are the chicken’s way of trying to goad you into making the first move.

At worst, it’s a passive-aggressive attempt at the same thing. One of the biggest complaints I have heard from women when it comes to online dating is the profound sense of entitlement that men can have.

Be willing to the responses you get to your profile.

“Perfection” can be intimidating, and guys are more willing to reach out to girls who they don’t feel are necessarily out of everyone’s league.

Single figure photos work best; the less work men have to do identifying you in a crowd, the better.

Genuine smiles and candid photos are more attractive than stiff poses; you should let your personality shine through rather than giving the standard Glamour Shots Special.

You see, when it comes to online dating, men will look at profile with attractive photos and then use the profiles to retroactively justify (or revise) their attraction.

I’ve lost count of the number of women’s profiles I’ve viewed on OKCupid or on with When it comes to a girl’s photos and online dating, less is frequently more.

There are fewer outlets for dating advice for guys than there are for women.

That being said, I I just joined Ok Cupid on your recommendation, and I have to say you were very right about it being a buyer’s market for ladies.

In theory, it should be fairly simple; dude with the brightest plumage, women with the best child-bearing hips, 10 minutes of squishy noises and then a whole lot of controversy as to whether primates pairbond monogamously or polygamously. Well, if you want quality guys, you’re going to put the effort into the profile.