This includes emergency travel like the death of a loved one. First, the Army is providing the essentials while you’re deployed so there’s not a need for a lot of money overseas.It’s not like you just book your own flight home from Afghanistan on Delta. He says he can come home but you have to request his leave through an email address. Second, you can have access to your money, so this is yet another lie.
Continuing to talk to their loved one that they knew before deployment? And when you’re thousands of miles away from each other, he doesn’t have the opportunity to sleep with you. Many of these stories contain comments about him saying he loves you within a few days/weeks of starting to talk or he wants to marry you as soon as he returns. And they’re doing this to many others at the same time they’re doing it to you. Go back and read the first line in bold at the top of this article.Let’s get this straight – you haven’t met and certainly haven’t had the opportunity to have any kind of physical relationship, yet he wants to marry you? If you’re even hesitating on the answer, I’ll help you. It’s just who is going to open up access to their bank account first. Or even better, he told you he is in fact a scammer but he REALLY loves you….long as you keep sending him money. I don’t care if he asks you to mail him a penny – a real soldier will NOT ask you for money.And you don’t have to send it through a relative because he can’t give out his address. He says he needs you to pay for his R&R leave because the Army doesn’t pay for it. A real soldier will not request money to travel home as he doesn’t need it!The Army pays for all travel to and from a war zone.Though I’m no stranger to military men (my grandfather, father and brother were all enlisted), this is the first time I have dated a soldier. I’ve seen a lot of websites that list ten things an Army girlfriend should remember and do, and some of them made great points. And your honey could be shipped out at any time, for months or years. Many of these are difficult and sometimes disturbing. If he wants to talk about his life in the Army, be it the crazy times with the guys in his unit, the tedium of the everyday, or even the tougher times, let him be the one to broach the subject.
Curious as to what I was in for, and wanting some solid guidance, I went looking for advice on how to be a good Army girlfriend. However, in my own time as an Army girlfriend, I’ve come upon a few revelations of my own. Dating a soldier is a commitment, and not one to be taken lightly. Above all, talk to people who’ve lived it and ask them to be honest. If you’re not ready for to be an Army girlfriend and all that it entails, break it off. As soon as my guy used the g-word, I hit the keyboard and called my sister-in-law (retired Army wife extraordinaire). Soldiers work long hours that they have absolutely no control over. If you’re one of those girls who always needs a guy on her arm, get used to disappointment. You’ll have time for your friends, family, hobbies and work. And odds are, one of the reasons his time with you means so much to him is because it’s one of the few times he can get away from that life. My boyfriend and I have plenty to talk about, from video games to the funny cashier at the grocery store, and I never bring up the Army to any extent greater than asking him how his day went. If your man is ready to introduce you to the guys in his unit and/or regiment, it’s a big step.
But you asked him if he was a scammer and he said no! He hasn’t asked for money yet though Don’t worry, he will. Keep asking me more questions – but he does this or he said this or he sent me these pictures. A real soldier makes more overseas than he does when he’s home!!
If any of the above signs sound familiar, it’s only a matter of time. I get emails and messages (or comments) from people who tell me the story and ask me if he’s fake. So let me sum this up: PLEASE quit sending these people money!
However, they don’t talk about it and they certainly don’t tell you they are on a “top secret mission”. He says he is not allowed to talk about what he does, however, he has cleared it with his CO that he can tell you enough to make you believe he is who he says. If he truly is not allowed to share any details about his job, his CO doesn’t even allow him to talk about it with family, much less someone he met on the internet.
Also, any special operations soldier worth his beret will not reveal his location to someone he doesn’t know (or even someone he does! Sometimes with this tactic, they will ask you to email/send mail to the CO to ask for permission. I know some very unlucky people but this is just over the top.
Nine times out of ten, they “met” their soldier on a social networking site, such as Facebook, or an online dating site.