If you take only one thing away from this story, let it be this: If the timing is off, don't try to force it. Think of it this way, in every relationship, you eventually talk about exes — this one just may be a bit more, well, significant. Let he or she do the talking, listen attentively, and then do your best to move on from there.Don't over indulge in these sessions because you DO NOT want double as his/her therapist, and this is an easy role to fall into. He or she was married to your current significant other for Pete's sake! This means: no stalking him/her on social media, and no peppering your new love interest with questions about the ex.
If you are thinking of dating someone outside of the relationship, there are some things you will want to consider first.The older we get, the more inevitable it's going to be we date people who already have a marriage behind their belt.Legal reasons not to date before divorce As far as the courts are concerned, you are still legally married until the divorce is finalized.In states that recognize fault in a divorce case, dating during divorce can be viewed as adultery.He may try to even the score by fighting about custody of the children or how to split the marital estate.
If you have children, then you also need to realize that it's in your best interest to try to keep a cordial relationship with your husband.
This can affect the outcome of your divorce as far as spousal support and the eventual property settlement goes.
Even if you have been separated from your husband for a while, dating during your divorce can be used to help prove marital misconduct during your marriage.
It can look like you have questionable morals, even if you were the perfect wife during your marriage.
If you date, your boyfriend may be open to scrutiny To top it off, a really vindictive husband might consider suing your boyfriend for alienation of affection.
Believe me, he will likely react to the fact that you are dating by making your life hell during the divorce process.