But on the other, some of the best relationships come out of two people who were friends first.If you and a friend have discovered you have feelings for each other, here’s how to make the transition while protecting both your friendship and each other. Going from friends to boyfriend and girlfriend is a big transition.He was scruffily cute and had an indistinct accent that pronounced tomato as A few days later, I received an Instagram DM from him asking if I’d like to hang out sometime. Our rapport was less flirtatious than it was friendly.
It’s about what the two of you want as a couple, not what all your friends want as a group. One of the strangest things about making the transition may be suddenly not knowing how to act around someone you used to feel totally comfortable around. As best you can, keep the friendship and your interactions the same.The only difference is that now when you see your friend you may kiss them instead of hug them, you may hang out more, and be more intimate.Resist the urge to ask your friends what your new significant other has said about you, and also resist the urge to talk (too much) with your friends about them.Instead of getting information about your feelings through a game of telephone (where you’re never getting the correct info), get you information about the relationship from each other.It’s an age-old dilemma: are your friends on or off limits for dating?
On the one hand, you don’t want to ruin the friendship.
I was open to going out and meeting people after escaping an exhausting and unhealthy relationship, but I wasn’t exactly eager to jump into dating, and I was nervous that doing so digitally might bring about potentially confusing situations. I felt embarrassingly out of touch with the culture of dating and was too much of a wuss to make an earnest effort.
But, as some saying goes, romance happens when you’re not actively seeking it.
If you have a question about the relationship, ask it.
And make clear that your friend/new bf/gf should do the same.
Get your information about the relationship from each other.