Let’s start with you, because a) you wrote me the note, and b) you’re an online dating anomaly – an honest size 10 who doesn’t claim to be athletic and toned.However, after talking to your male co-workers and observing that you’re not being contacted, you have to be asking yourself – is it REALLY in my best interests to tell the truth if 95% of guys are going to dismiss me for doing so?
The guys who have made contact have been people that I probably would not have dated normally, i.e., no steady job or just a little odd.The good news, Nicci, is that all of the answers can be derived from the same exact technique – flipping things over to consider the other person’s point of view.Finally, I feel like a #West Country Girl (don't worry Mam, it's only 4%) xx #cider @orchard_pig A photo posted by Michelle Thomas (@msmthomas) on He wrote: “I really enjoyed your company and actually adore you. I f***ing adore you Michelle and I think you're the prettiest looking girl I've ever met. I really, really am), I can't say the same about your figure. And Michelle thought so too, but she handled the guy in the best way possible.You're cheeky and funny and just the sort of girl I would love to go out with if only my body and mind would let me. So I can sit there and flirt and have the most incredibly fun evening, but I have this awful feeling that when we got undressed your body would let me down. We could be amazing friends, we could flirt and joke and adore each other and.... I would marry you like a shot if you were a slip of a girl because what you have in that mind of yours is utterly unique, and I really really love it. After bursting into tears, she realized it was Having #depression doesn't mean I'm always depressed, in the same way that being allergic to bee stings doesn't mean a person is in constant anaphylactic shock.All we can do is tackle this confidently, and not get too thrown by the many bumps in the road.
The man who wants you is going to WANT a curvy girl.Next myth to be busted: why men don’t go out with “curvy” women. Which is why I’ve helped thousands of people rebrand and market themselves successfully online over the past nine years.Well, you touched on it yourself, Nicci, in your email. Women know that men prefer thin, so they adjust their descriptions accordingly. Better photos, better essays, better usernames, better email technique.Men are still largely going to prefer young, thin women.Women are still going to prefer tall, successful men.Focus your energies on attracting and maintaining the 5% that you want. Understanding this about online dating is essential to your success.