My problem with the world is that it seems to think it is possible to embrace the rights of sex workers and still stigmatize the men who employ them.
For one example: An ethically nonmonogamous woman fucks the boyfriend/husband she loves and other guys she doesn't; a poly woman has two (or more) guys she both loves and fucks.I have two complaints: one with the world and one with you.I've also said that you can't be in an LTR without paying the price of admission, and I've said that a lot more often.If not getting oral at home is the price of admission you're willing to pay to be with your wife, and if allowing you to get oral elsewhere is the price of admission she's willing to pay to be with you, then Godspeed, IWFU, and tip the sex workers you patronize and speak up to fight the stigma against doing sex work and hiring sex workers." Just Seems Rude People who are courteous to strangers ("Excuse me, can I squeeze past you?
") and contemptuous with intimate partners ("Do you have to stand there, you fucking dumbass? Always was bi but identified as gay because (1) he prefers men as romantic partners and (2) the biphobia he encountered in gay male spaces/bedrooms/buttholes convinced him to stay closeted but he doesn't want to live a lie anymore and he's done hiding from the man he loves but instead of using his words and coming out to you like a grown-up, GAYBYBI, your boyfriend is letting you know he's bi with his porn choices and a big push to make a MMF threesome sound like a sexy adventure you would both enjoy? As for how to handle it, GAYBYBI, you'll have to use your words: Ask your boyfriend if he's bi.Is it reasonable to be put off if rather than simply hearing "Excuse me" when you are inadvertently in someone's way, the person trying to gain access says, "Do you have to stand there?Or should I just go ahead and find myself another jack-off buddy? I recently spent a wonderful weekend with a young woman from out of town who identifies as queer and poly.Craving Uncut Masculine Sri Lankan Another jack-off buddy? Being the curious guy I am, I had her explain what these things meant to her.So I go down on her, she doesn't go down on me, and I see escorts who do. It Works For Us In regards to your first complaint, IWFU, there are sex workers out there fighting for their rights and fighting the stigma against sex work—along with fighting prohibition, the Nordic Model, and SESTA (google it)—but you don't see the men who employ them stepping up and joining the fight.