With a partner, there’s no hiding from your language learning. If you take a week off, you’ll be in the dog house!
When I was a senior at high school, I had a Brazilian exchange student live with me for three months. On the first day at school, all the girls had a crush on him. I soon realized one word summed it all up: “ When I was in university, I dated a Brazilian girl for two weeks but I didn’t bother to learn any Portuguese. I also learned heaps from her about Ghanaian culture, food, dance, and more. I went on some dates where we spent most of time in silence. Here are my favourites: One of the best parts about dating someone in your target language is that you can learn the real life experiences and not from a boring textbook. Perhaps his accent, possibly it was his style, or maybe it was the fact he kissed girls on the hand when he greeted them. She was great and extremely helpful for me to learn the local language, Twi. Being in a relationship with someone who speaks your target language has lots of benefits. Because they are too and it’s your job to set the tone. Don’t ghost because shit comes around and someone you really like will ghost on you and you will internalize it and wonder why and if you’re defective. You can’t want a cleaner world and toss your bag of Wendy’s out your car window. Also, you’ve already seen the person live via webcam / phone and technology is pretty fucking good these days so even if they’re really photogentic, they won’t be that far off.
The intention isn’t to be friends or strike a busienss deal.
Also, if you take a trip to your partner’s home country, you’ll have a free tour guide. If dating someone in your target language brought no challenges, then perhaps the term “polyglot’ and “polygamous” would be combined to create a new one: “polyglotamous”.
Anyway, before I smash my head on the keyboard for that horrible joke, below are a few things to be aware of when dating someone in your target language. Having a foreign partner can lead to a lot of misunderstanding.
When I was in my twenties and had a date, this is what I would do. Then I would hand pick the the songs I wanted to play and load the CDs into my six disc changer in the trunk. Okay, let’s start with actually using our phones for what they were invented for. If someone is asking you out via text, text them to call you and if they won’t, they don’t deserve to go on a date with you.
I would wake up early like it was Christmas and wash my car. Then I would go workout so I felt good about myself. We know we can swipe and find another prospect while our date is in the restroom.
That’s assuming you see your partner on a regular basis, though if you’re hanging out with your Skype tutor more often than you’re going on dates with your partner, you may have a problem anyway!