We are now the only group whose divorce rate is actually rising.
Her life was completely uncompromised and I can entirely relate to her contentment. As a nutritionist and hypnotherapist, I see many fiftysomething women.They come to me because they want to lose their menopausal tummies.Yet, dig a little deeper, and what they really want to divest themselves of is the big lump in the armchair called their husband.Their comfort eating and drinking is often a symptom of their unhappiness – but a fear of being alone stops them from tackling the real problem. My children are becoming more independent and this is my golden time. I don’t have to go to boring business dinners as a plus-one, or schlep up the motorway to visit someone else’s parents.They are: one surprised to find out so many women find golfers uber-attractive.
To be totally transparent, golf is one of two sports I turn on when I need something to put me to sleep, not something I tune in to in order to get turned on.
My forties were spent dealing with the romantic hangover of my thirties – divorce and being a single parent to small children.
Being single in my fifties feels like I’ve finally got myself back.
But there is a definite demographic shift going on when it comes to our relationships.
New figures from the Office For National Statistics show that while the divorce rate continues to fall overall, the trend is not mirrored by the over-fifties.
Many fiftysomething women’s desire for a different kind of life is also hindered by the need to look after ageing parents and/or demanding children. I don’t have to cook “his” dinner or do “his” washing. I can go on holiday when and where I want, I can eat the food I fancy and spend my money exactly as I please.