I couldn’t believe somebody could be this boring.” It turns out they can—in part because they don’t have to put out much effort.Seems things on the other side of the chromosome find a dating pool that’s much deeper.
“So, it was our first date and their second.” And while that seems to suggest the women of Southwest Florida should lower their expectations, the opposite is true. If you don’t have time to call me, you don’t have time for a relationship,” she says.“Men don’t have to pursue women anymore because women are chasing them all over the place,” says Joanna Simmons*, a 60-year-old widow who moved to the area seven years ago from Michigan and bemoans the use of texting in the dating arena. But while the phrase “Beggars can’t be choosers” rolls off the tongue easily, the women of Southwest Florida are definitely not beggars. Worse yet, Naples is a very married town.” And there’s the rub.“He said, ‘Not really.’ After being pushed, he came back with, ‘Well, Easter Island.’ ‘Well, that’s interesting,’ I said. I never left the airport.’ “It turned out he was only interested in becoming part of the top 5 percent of a frequent flier top-tier program. Just flew from place to place building points,” Ottenstein adds.“I actually went out with him a total of three times because I thought I was missing something.“They don’t want to buy someone another house, another car.” “The people they’re meeting are not serious about a relationship,” L’Heureux says.
“There are a lot of players out there that are not serious—are not relationship material.” And then there’s the elephant in the room: Many single men are looking for younger women.
In fact, during their first date he mentioned he had traveled around the world four times just that year.
“I asked him if he went anywhere interesting,” Ottenstein says.
Now they’re at a place in their lives where they recognize they need a man who can keep up with them—both emotionally and financially.
For some, if guys don’t have the wherewithal, there’s a serious hesitation to even bother. “Some of these men have split their fortunes—sometimes multiple times,” Simmons says with an understanding tone.
The same can be said for Stephanie Rogers*, a 50-year-old philanthropist who’s been divorced for several years and struggles to find local men of any caliber who hold her interest. So the truth is we don’t really know just how many single men there really are in Southwest Florida—could be hundreds of thousands or, as Clarkson says, “there are 15.” But even if the lack of actual single men isn’t a problem, the lack of “qualified” men certainly is.