Telling the difference between an opinion and abusive behavior might seem easy, but sometimes it can be more difficult to interpret.
Abusive behavior follows a pattern; it happens frequently and is meant to make you question your own thoughts and feelings. You may feel that you have to do things his/her way in order to keep the peace.
We all have dealt with nicknames and insults, even among our friends.
Your partner may convince you to drop your favorite activities or quit your job to spend more time together.At first being together all the time may seem romantic.By questioning your ideas and thoughts, the abuser makes you vulnerable to his/her influence. This warning sign is a signal that what your partner is doing is not love: it’s control. If your boyfriend or girlfriend likes to see you wear a certain style of clothing, that may be fine.She may be able to give you guidance about your style or he may really like to see you in a certain color.Some partners may use the most disgusting references in order to crush your self esteem.
There is no need to spell them out here; you can imagine what kinds of words they use.
He/she can keep you away from other influences that might convince you that your relationship isn’t healthy.
Break the Cycle’s Power and Control wheel (at lists various controlling behaviors that fall into this early warning sign category including: You need to ask yourself these important questions to determine if your partner may be using controlling behavior: Does your partner need to know where you are at all times? Do you feel pressured into doing things like sex, drinking or drugs that you would not normally do?
He only wants us to be able to do more things together.
She loves me so much that she can’t bear to be apart. If he/she is with you all the time, he/she can keep tabs on you and control what you do.
His/her control over you limits your personal freedom.